Improve Your Relationship – Dating an EMT or Paramedic With Eyes Wide Open

We hear all the time about the nurse or doctor and the first responders in an emergency being police and firefighters. The news reports tell us about the soldiers fighting for our freedom overseas. There is one profession that is not as familiar to us and the work of these people do is just as important in today's world, the medic.

They are out there, as many of you are aware, saving lives and are referred to by many names: EMT, AEMT (Advance Emergency Medical Technician), or Paramedic.

Though we know what they do, the majority of us are unfamiliar with their challenging lifestyle. Depending on which sector they have chosen to work in they may endure shifts as long as 12 or 24 hours. As with many first responders, they never know what type of situation they will be called to and when they arrive on the scene what they may encounter ranges from bizarre to a war zone to delivering a baby.

Due to such unknowns, studies show those in this field 10.5% of emergency medical technicians (EMTs) and 15% of the experienced paramedics had PTSD. * Of course, there are many contributing factors that determine the degree to which each individual person may suffer from PTSD, including the size of the town or city in which they are working, where they grew up, how long they have been on the job and what profession they were in prior to becoming a medic.

Do I Really Want to Date A Medic?

Though every relationship has its unique circumstances to overcome, for those women (myself included) whom have chose to begin dating or enter into a romantic relationship with someone in this profession, it quickly becomes apparent just how challenging such a relationship can be. Dealing with long hours, awful schedules (including late night or early morning hours), little quality sleep and consistent (not to mention constant) training is something many women have trouble becoming accustom.

The key to maintaining a relationship with a medic is to determine if: A) you are independent enough to not need a guy to be around all the time (or when you want him to be) and B) if the relationship is something you want to put your time and energy into in order to do whatever it takes to maintain the relationship.

If the answer to either of the above was not a resounding yes, then I would recommend reconsidering if this is the right relationship for you.

Now, please do not misunderstand, as this relationship can be one of the most rewarding that you will ever experience. What I am saying is that though every situation is unique, as in my particular situation, you may not get to see each other a lot (and forget about holidays), he may work crappy hours and you may have to entertain yourself many days and evenings. Adding to the challenge is the infamous day job that most of us have, which makes it even more difficult to see him.

Not every medic will have the same schedule and depending on the guy and where he may be working each situation will vary. However, I am giving you an idea of ​​what you might expect, things to look for and what to ask him about.

For those of you who may be thinking about dating a medic, just getting into one of these rewarding relationships or who have already committed to giving him your heart I congratulate you. Though maintaining this relationship is challenging, I am here to tell you that it can not only be a good relationship but an epic one.

As you now understand what it takes to be in such a relationship, if you would like to learn more get your free guide here .

* Medscape Psychiatry & Mental Health eJournal. 1997; 2 (5)



Source by Theresa R Ruiz

This article is brought to you by Kokula Krishna Hari Kunasekaran! Visit Website or Follow back at @kkkhari

Improve Your Relationship – Dating an EMT or Paramedic With Eyes Wide Open

We hear all the time about the nurse or doctor and the first responders in an emergency being police and firefighters. The news reports tell us about the soldiers fighting for our freedom overseas. There is one profession that is not as familiar to us and the work these people do is just as important in today’s world, the medic.

They are out there, as many of you are aware, saving lives and are referred to by many names: EMT, AEMT (Advance Emergency Medical Technician), or Paramedic.

Though we know what they do, the majority of us are unfamiliar with their challenging lifestyle. Depending on which sector they have chosen to work in they may endure shifts as long as 12 or 24 hours. As with many first responders, they never know what type of situation they will be called to and when they arrive on the scene what they may encounter ranges from bizarre to a war zone to delivering a baby.

Due to such unknowns, studies show those in this field 10.5% of emergency medical technicians (EMTs) and 15% of the experienced paramedics had PTSD.* Of course, there are many contributing factors that determine the degree to which each individual person may suffer from PTSD, including the size of the town or city in which they are working, where they grew up, how long they have been on the job and what profession they were in prior to becoming a medic.

Do I Really Want to Date A Medic?

Though every relationship has its unique circumstances to overcome, for those women (myself included) whom have chose to begin dating or enter into a romantic relationship with someone in this profession, it quickly becomes apparent just how challenging such a relationship can be. Dealing with long hours, awful schedules (including late night or early morning hours), little quality sleep and consistent (not to mention constant) training is something many women have trouble becoming accustom.

The key to maintaining a relationship with a medic is to determine if: A) you are independent enough to not need a guy to be around all the time (or when you want him to be) and B) if the relationship is something you want to put your time and energy into in order to do whatever it takes to maintain the relationship.

If the answer to either of the above was not a resounding yes, then I would recommend reconsidering if this is the right relationship for you.

Now, please do not misunderstand, as this relationship can be one of the most rewarding that you will ever experience. What I am saying is that though every situation is unique, as in my particular situation, you may not get to see each other a lot (and forget about holidays), he may work crappy hours and you may have to entertain yourself many days and evenings. Adding to the challenge is the infamous day job that most of us have, which makes it even more difficult to see him.

Not every medic will have the same schedule and depending on the guy and where he may be working each situation will vary. However, I am giving you an idea of what you might expect, things to look for and what to ask him about.

For those of you who may be thinking about dating a medic, just getting into one of these rewarding relationships or who have already committed to giving him your heart I congratulate you. Though maintaining this relationship is challenging, I am here to tell you that it can not only be a good relationship but an epic one.

As you now understand what it takes to be in such a relationship, if you would like to learn more get your free guide here.

* Medscape Psychiatry & Mental Health eJournal. 1997;2(5)



Source by Theresa R Ruiz

This article is brought to you by Kokula Krishna Hari Kunasekaran! Visit Website or Follow back at @kkkhari

How To Improve Your Memory

Too often when I ask the question: "Do you have a bad memory? The automatic answer I get is an emphatic Yes!

My next question to them is what if someone were to borrow from them say a million dollars would they forget the person? And this time they give me a resounding No! Of course not! When I ask them why that is so and they say "well its obvious isn't it? I mean how can you possibly forget that?

So back to the original question: "why do you think you've got a bad memory?" This time they give me another excuse.

Unless you've been diagnose with some kind of brain debilitating disease there is no such thing as a bad memory. For that matter there is no such thing as a good memory either. What most of us have is an untrained mind that can be nurtured to develop a razor sharp memory. The main reason why some of us feel that we cannot achieve this is that they are expecting it to occur overnight and they hope that there is some kind of pill that they can swallow that will boost their memory power.

Although some kinds of food can in some ways keep our memory power intact, what it really boils down to is to train our brain to remember what we want and recall them when we want to. In a recent seminar that I conducted, I had an 80 year old gentleman who after having been taught on how to remember was able to recall a long list of words in a short period of time. This is indeed a testament to the fact that old age does not destroy our ability to remember. Consider this metaphor: what happens if you never use a knife for a long period of time? The answer is obvious – it will not be as sharp as it should be. However, once you've sharpened it and use it regularly you find that it stays sharp. After some time you find that it gets blunt again and you have to sharpen it once more. This is how your memory works. You have to sharpen your memory from time to time. Just like you keep your physical body healthy by engaging in regular exercise, you can keep your memory razor sharp by doing the following things.

Improve your power of observation

One of the key reasons why many of us feel that we've got a lousy memory is because we do not boost our power of observation. If you drive, how many times have you parked your car in a multi-story carpark and were unable to find where you've parked the car when you return? The reason why you've got this problem is because when you parked your car, you failed to connect or link your car to the surrounding environment. You perceive the world that is in front of you and your car. What you need to do is to turn and have a good look at your car and see where you've parked it. Link your car to a pillar or remember the lot number where you've parked.

When you are introduced to someone new the first thing that you do is to find out the person's name. And yet a few seconds later you cannot remember the name. Again this is due to your lack of power of observation. What you can do is to ask the person to repeat their name if you did not get it the first time. If the person gives you a name card, look at the card and make an association of the person with the name and his / her organization.

Example: Let say you were introduced to Theresa Lim who is a HR manager with Alphabet Pte Ltd. Perhaps you could see a "Tree" with lots of letters from the alphabets hanging from it. Then you know who the person is as 'tree' sounds close to Theresa and the letters on the tree may trigger your brain to recall the name of the company she is working.

However, I need to caution you here to be sensitive to this as it might look impressive on your part if you are able to recall the person you met, but you certainly won't want to tell the person how you remember her.

Boost your concentration

This is important if you really want to develop a razor sharp memory. You don't have to sweat over it. You could do it slowly and steadily. Boosting your concentration helps your brain to intensify its various activities and thus helps you to recall information with ease. You can boost your concentration by trying to link unrelated list of words by creating a story between them. Try to remember a whole song lyric by hard and sing it. You can also take a paragraph from a book or a list of countries and see whether you could remember them by hard. When you force yourself to remember such list of items there is a tendency for your brain to make many neural connections that allows you to boost your concentration and this in turn helps you increase your ability to recall information with ease.

Learn a new thing everyday

This is one of the most effective ways to keep your memory razor sharp. When you learn something new everyday you will find yourself becoming more more alert and focussed on what you are doing. One effective way to do this is to learn a new word from the dictionary everyday and try to use it in your daily conversation or writing. Or you could keep an encyclopedia by your bedside and learn a new bit of information before you sleep. The Internet has many useful search engines that give you an immediate access to almost any information that you want. Try not to search for things that you already have a prior knowledge in. Learn something new as in that way your brain will take notice. When you do this regularly you will find that the new information seems to attract your interest and this will inspire your brain to make effective connections with existing information you have to help you boost your memory and make it razor sharp.



Source by Daniel Theyagu

This article is brought to you by Kokula Krishna Hari Kunasekaran! Visit Website or Follow back at @kkkhari

Improve Your Relationship – Dating an EMT or Paramedic With Eyes Wide Open

We hear all the time about the nurse or doctor and the first responders in an emergency being police and firefighters. The news reports tell us about the soldiers fighting for our freedom overseas. There is one profession that is not as familiar to us and the work these people do is just as important in today’s world, the medic.

They are out there, as many of you are aware, saving lives and are referred to by many names: EMT, AEMT (Advance Emergency Medical Technician), or Paramedic.

Though we know what they do, the majority of us are unfamiliar with their challenging lifestyle. Depending on which sector they have chosen to work in they may endure shifts as long as 12 or 24 hours. As with many first responders, they never know what type of situation they will be called to and when they arrive on the scene what they may encounter ranges from bizarre to a war zone to delivering a baby.

Due to such unknowns, studies show those in this field 10.5% of emergency medical technicians (EMTs) and 15% of the experienced paramedics had PTSD.* Of course, there are many contributing factors that determine the degree to which each individual person may suffer from PTSD, including the size of the town or city in which they are working, where they grew up, how long they have been on the job and what profession they were in prior to becoming a medic.

Do I Really Want to Date A Medic?

Though every relationship has its unique circumstances to overcome, for those women (myself included) whom have chose to begin dating or enter into a romantic relationship with someone in this profession, it quickly becomes apparent just how challenging such a relationship can be. Dealing with long hours, awful schedules (including late night or early morning hours), little quality sleep and consistent (not to mention constant) training is something many women have trouble becoming accustom.

The key to maintaining a relationship with a medic is to determine if: A) you are independent enough to not need a guy to be around all the time (or when you want him to be) and B) if the relationship is something you want to put your time and energy into in order to do whatever it takes to maintain the relationship.

If the answer to either of the above was not a resounding yes, then I would recommend reconsidering if this is the right relationship for you.

Now, please do not misunderstand, as this relationship can be one of the most rewarding that you will ever experience. What I am saying is that though every situation is unique, as in my particular situation, you may not get to see each other a lot (and forget about holidays), he may work crappy hours and you may have to entertain yourself many days and evenings. Adding to the challenge is the infamous day job that most of us have, which makes it even more difficult to see him.

Not every medic will have the same schedule and depending on the guy and where he may be working each situation will vary. However, I am giving you an idea of what you might expect, things to look for and what to ask him about.

For those of you who may be thinking about dating a medic, just getting into one of these rewarding relationships or who have already committed to giving him your heart I congratulate you. Though maintaining this relationship is challenging, I am here to tell you that it can not only be a good relationship but an epic one.

As you now understand what it takes to be in such a relationship, if you would like to learn more get your free guide here.

* Medscape Psychiatry & Mental Health eJournal. 1997;2(5)



Source by Theresa R Ruiz

This article is brought to you by Kokula Krishna Hari Kunasekaran! Visit Website or Follow back at @kkkhari

How To Improve Your Memory

Too often when I ask the question: “Do you have a bad memory? The automatic answer I get is an emphatic Yes!

My next question to them is what if someone were to borrow from them say a million dollars would they forget the person? And this time they give me a resounding No! Of course not! When I ask them why that is so and they say “well its obvious isn’t it? I mean how can you possibly forget that?

So back to the original question: “why do you think you’ve got a bad memory?” This time they give me another excuse.

Unless you’ve been diagnose with some kind of brain debilitating disease there is no such thing as a bad memory. For that matter there is no such thing as a good memory either. What most of us have is an untrained mind that can be nurtured to develop a razor sharp memory. The main reason why some of us feel that we cannot achieve this is that they are expecting it to occur overnight and they hope that there is some kind of pill that they can swallow that will boost their memory power.

Although some kinds of food can in some ways keep our memory power intact, what it really boils down to is to train our brain to remember what we want and recall them when we want to. In a recent seminar that I conducted, I had an 80 year old gentleman who after having been taught on how to remember was able to recall a long list of words in a short period of time. This is indeed a testament to the fact that old age does not destroy our ability to remember. Consider this metaphor: what happens if you never use a knife for a long period of time? The answer is obvious – it will not be as sharp as it should be. However, once you’ve sharpened it and use it regularly you find that it stays sharp. After some time you find that it gets blunt again and you have to sharpen it once more. This is how your memory works. You have to sharpen your memory from time to time. Just like you keep your physical body healthy by engaging in regular exercise, you can keep your memory razor sharp by doing the following things.

Improve your power of observation

One of the key reasons why many of us feel that we’ve got a lousy memory is because we do not boost our power of observation. If you drive, how many times have you parked your car in a multi-story carpark and were unable to find where you’ve parked the car when you return? The reason why you’ve got this problem is because when you parked your car, you failed to connect or link your car to the surrounding environment. You perceive the world that is in front of you and your car. What you need to do is to turn and have a good look at your car and see where you’ve parked it. Link your car to a pillar or remember the lot number where you’ve parked.

When you are introduced to someone new the first thing that you do is to find out the person’s name. And yet a few seconds later you cannot remember the name. Again this is due to your lack of power of observation. What you can do is to ask the person to repeat their name if you did not get it the first time. If the person gives you a name card, look at the card and make an association of the person with the name and his/her organization.

Example: Let say you were introduced to Theresa Lim who is a HR manager with Alphabet Pte Ltd. Perhaps you could see a “Tree” with lots of letters from the alphabets hanging from it. Then you know who the person is as ‘tree’ sounds close to Theresa and the letters on the tree may trigger your brain to recall the name of the company she is working.

However, I need to caution you here to be sensitive to this as it might look impressive on your part if you are able to recall the person you met, but you certainly won’t want to tell the person how you remember her.

Boost your concentration

This is important if you really want to develop a razor sharp memory. You don’t have to sweat over it. You could do it slowly and steadily. Boosting your concentration helps your brain to intensify its various activities and thus helps you to recall information with ease. You can boost your concentration by trying to link unrelated list of words by creating a story between them. Try to remember a whole song lyric by hard and sing it. You can also take a paragraph from a book or a list of countries and see whether you could remember them by hard. When you force yourself to remember such list of items there is a tendency for your brain to make many neural connections that allows you to boost your concentration and this in turn helps you increase your ability to recall information with ease.

Learn a new thing everyday

This is one of the most effective ways to keep your memory razor sharp. When you learn something new everyday you will find yourself becoming increasingly more alert and focussed on what you are doing. One effective way to do this is to learn a new word from the dictionary everyday and try to use it in your daily conversation or writing. Or you could keep an encyclopedia by your bedside and learn a new bit of information before you sleep. The Internet has many useful search engines that give you an immediate access to almost any information that you want. Try not to search for things that you already have a prior knowledge in. Learn something new as in that way your brain will take notice. When you do this regularly you will find that the new information seems to attract your interest and this will inspire your brain to make effective connections with existing information you have to help you boost your memory and make it razor sharp.



Source by Daniel Theyagu

This article is brought to you by Kokula Krishna Hari Kunasekaran! Visit Website or Follow back at @kkkhari